Reading the comments section is usually interesting. I have to admit that there are posts on social media where I only read the comments, simply because I know that whatever I find there will be interesting. Dating is one such controversial topic.
I was looking through comments dissecting our dating culture, and most of the comments were complaints about undesirable dating behaviors. Many of them I agreed with, but one stood out to me. I have to admit that I felt a little personally attacked all in good humor, of course. I used to think that if I loved someone I would love them forever.
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My divorce disproved that theory. When it ended, I was sure that it would stop if I ever fell in love with someone else. Wrong again!
I keep being surprised by love- sometimes unpleasantly so- because I keep wanting to put my own expectations on the experience. Chances are, by this point, most of the people in my dating range will have had relationships with other people. Here are some important factors to consider, however:. Do they continue to nurture that love by spending time dwelling on it or attempting to contact that person?
Is this the kind of love where they hope they will end up reconciling with this person? This person, like me, has realized we can love people and still choose not to be with them. We can feel love and yet recognize that being with that person is not in our best interests, and we can still move on and be open to loving someone else.
Whether or not we feel love for someone is often out of our hands, but what we do about the love we feel is most certainly something we can control.
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